tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467069997974807961.post7168234701489743820..comments2023-04-10T03:59:52.627-07:00Comments on Cripperella: I Said No Thank YouKatiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05609298657458854084noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467069997974807961.post-61689671246609842942015-06-09T08:26:58.989-07:002015-06-09T08:26:58.989-07:00I've been injured by an aggressive pusher too!...I've been injured by an aggressive pusher too! Boundaries, communication and respect are so important.<br /><br />My favorite question is "What's wrong with you?" I always smile and say "Nothing, what wrong with you?'Katiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05609298657458854084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467069997974807961.post-58841401352133425262015-06-09T08:24:30.547-07:002015-06-09T08:24:30.547-07:00Wow, I cried a little when the first guy stood up ...Wow, I cried a little when the first guy stood up to that lady. Thanks for sharing the link.Katiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05609298657458854084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467069997974807961.post-79933255898244151212015-06-05T23:56:10.475-07:002015-06-05T23:56:10.475-07:00YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I h...YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I hear you!!! <br /><br />Someone once ;helped' by pushing my wheelchair withoout checking with me first (I was indoors, on a flat floor, waiting for the lift) and nearly broke my fingers. My new chair doesn't have handles. <br /><br />But people treat me like Im an idiot - and it pisses me off. Not had anyone pray for me, but I am a part time wheelchair user and had a lot of rather personal questions. Hey! I'm just trying to get to work here, leave me alone!! <br /><br />Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07159991189304877431noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467069997974807961.post-23945121476042640552015-06-05T21:03:49.725-07:002015-06-05T21:03:49.725-07:00Your story reminds me of a scenario I saw on What ...Your story reminds me of a scenario I saw on What Would You Do. Have you ever seen it?<br /><br />http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gshh1nVE5MsDothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05231828403164956078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467069997974807961.post-20187894129721444872015-06-05T09:40:52.432-07:002015-06-05T09:40:52.432-07:00Everyone responds differently to this kind of stre...Everyone responds differently to this kind of stress. With my path being blocked and the reverse being slow on those scooters, fight was my only option, but I think maybe I came out of it feeling more confident than before as a result. Fleeing is entirely valid if that's what works for you. It's terrifying for people like us to be cornered like that and have no idea what they're really trying to do. We encounter so many assaultive situations in which most people would have been justified in using (possibly lethal) force to defend themselves because of reasonable fear of kidnapping or assault, but we're expected to assume that everyone is "just trying to help" even though we said, "no" and we're easier targets. It puts us in terrible danger of violence because we don't know when to defend ourselves and if we do, we risk being punished for it.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08941031534580192267noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467069997974807961.post-85487332817752785912015-06-05T05:50:47.911-07:002015-06-05T05:50:47.911-07:00I can totally imagine! I'll check at that post...I can totally imagine! I'll check at that post. Thanks!Katiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05609298657458854084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467069997974807961.post-70397285525040812512015-06-05T05:50:08.676-07:002015-06-05T05:50:08.676-07:00I better work on my incredulous stare, it sounds l...I better work on my incredulous stare, it sounds like a winner. Don't feel like a heel, the aggressively "helpful" need as many lessons in manners as we can give them. Katiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05609298657458854084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467069997974807961.post-64732347506177104112015-06-05T05:48:17.289-07:002015-06-05T05:48:17.289-07:00Right?!? Since posting this one other person said ...Right?!? Since posting this one other person said the same thing happened to her so apparently there's more than one person who thinks you can just take someone's baby as long as your "helping". Thanks.Katiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05609298657458854084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467069997974807961.post-7989375846183093642015-06-05T05:46:09.673-07:002015-06-05T05:46:09.673-07:00It is such a completely aggressive thing to ignore...It is such a completely aggressive thing to ignore someone saying no and ridiculous to be villainized for standing up for yourself. I wish I had been a little my aggressive, but she was standing so close to me and my fight or flight said flight. Katiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05609298657458854084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467069997974807961.post-4041868242825018292015-06-04T19:50:08.445-07:002015-06-04T19:50:08.445-07:00I can So relate to this post. As someone who is vi...I can So relate to this post. As someone who is visually impaired, I often get people who may or may not have the best of intentions basically demand that I allow them to help me. On some occasions, this is not a bad thing - sometimes I try and take on too much myself - and sometimes I just want to pay for my greasy lunch and sit down and eat it in peace. My good friend Meagan wrote a blog post on this very subject not too long ago. I hope it adds to the discussion:<br />https://wheresyourdog.wordpress.com/2015/05/22/but-i-meant-well/Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467069997974807961.post-61093628680988808792015-06-04T16:50:23.829-07:002015-06-04T16:50:23.829-07:00I have discovered fairly recently that I have a pa...I have discovered fairly recently that I have a particular kind of "incredulous" stare. When people say something really stupid to me about disability, or behave the way this "good Samaritan" did with you, my no thanks is accompanied by a look on my face that apparently says, "ARE YOU KIDDING ME? WHAT IS HAPPENING?" On the plus side, it tends to cut people short before they can really screw up my routine. On the downside, I confess it makes me feel like a heel, even though I know it shouldn't. Your account makes me feel better!apulranghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16133974049950425863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467069997974807961.post-24470580735730124282015-06-04T15:47:19.165-07:002015-06-04T15:47:19.165-07:00Someone took your BABY out of your hands?! Oh gosh...Someone took your BABY out of your hands?! Oh gosh. I use a wheelchair as well and get so frustrated when people use it as an armrest, grab it, push me, or otherwise try to help me in ways that actually hold me back. Glad you wrote this.Emily @ Words I Wheel Byhttp://wordsiwheelby.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467069997974807961.post-58712148894572673902015-06-04T13:48:56.317-07:002015-06-04T13:48:56.317-07:00I once had a man block my path in the feezer secti...I once had a man block my path in the feezer section at the grocery store insisting on "helping" me whether I liked it or not. After politely declining him twice, he persisted, so shouting began. I told him that after declining his unwanted help once, he needs to leave. I said that it's obvious at this point that his motives had nothing to do with helping me, and everything to do with feeling good about himself. I said it's patronizing and offensive to force unwanted "help" on others when I've already said, "don't help me." At this point, he was still blocking my way and I had my hand on the lever ready to drive the scooter right into him in the least subtle way possible. I was well aware that I would get away with it because I knew all of the managers and some of the security staff from having worked at that store before my mobility limitations forced me to quit. He looked down at his feet and weakly said, "I was just trying to help." In a big booming voice that could've been heard from across the store, I bellowed, "GO AWAY!" I think he simultaneously noticed my hands twitching on the lever. He jumped sideways then retreated from the aisle. When I got to the next aisle, I heard people whispering to their companions, "oh, that's what the yelling was about," as they noticed me in the scooter. No doubt that schmuck went home and tweeted about the ungrateful cripple he tried to help.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08941031534580192267noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467069997974807961.post-52918635668867348922015-06-04T11:46:44.969-07:002015-06-04T11:46:44.969-07:00Well put -JeanWell put -JeanAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467069997974807961.post-31600939024309693652015-06-04T10:37:01.643-07:002015-06-04T10:37:01.643-07:00Exactly. they don't stop to think about how th...Exactly. they don't stop to think about how they'd feel if roles were reversed.Katiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05609298657458854084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467069997974807961.post-51861633049734526742015-06-04T09:51:28.937-07:002015-06-04T09:51:28.937-07:00i go through the same thing every day....people do...i go through the same thing every day....people dont understand i am not angry or have a chip on my shoulder....just annoyed thats all Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com